Cori’s life story could be my son’s. My son’s childhood was pretty much the same with the addition of being bullied for the assumption that he was gay. Infuriating that “being gay” is still being hurled around as an insult and that people are still being bullied for their sexual preferences (or supposed preferences). When my son decided he must be female, he was suddenly protected and even celebrated at school. Sadly, I could not convince him to listen to people like Cori who have been through this and know the permanent toll it takes on one’s life. My heart goes out to Corinna and to my son who is barreling down the same path for the same reasons. And my fury is directed at all those who continue to perpetrate and abet these medical fantasies about changing sex - mutilation and medicalization of the body isn’t health care. It’s manipulation and abuse foisted upon people who really need support to appreciate themselves as they are.
It is for people with stories like you that I do this. It is some kind of left wing conversion therapy and they don’t seem to see just how homophobic and misogynistic it is. We used to celebrate Tomboys. We needed to learn how to embrace their male equivalents to where sissy wasn’t a dirty word that implied probable homosexuality. You will be in my prayers. Thank you.
Thank you, LeAnne! I am so grateful for people like you and Corinna who keep working to shed light on this situation. I’m going to keep speaking out as well. I think it is too late to turn the tide for my son - he’s been no contact with me for almost 2 years now, so he may have already gone the full route right thru surgery by now. But I’m hoping that maybe your words and mine and those of others trying to hold back this tide may eventually help other young people caught up in this.
Thank you for your words and I pray either way he makes his way back home. The breakup of families is one of the great tragedies. It’s easy to imagine this new rainbow family, but those people rarely last when bad times arrive. Just keep your heart out to when I pray he returns. Take care
Jack Turban, you bastard! Four words capturing the entire movement of gender-affirming care and the ghoulishness of the reprehensible human beings who have carried it out on vulnerable children and young adults.
Thank you for all you do, LGBT Courage coalition. I wish I had the courage to speak up openly, rather than anonymously. Unfortunately, it would jeopardize my relationship with my daughter.
I am so sorry you’re going through that. You will be in my prayers. I am fortunate enough to be in a position where I can speak so I do, but I began this writing bc I had so many friends in positions like you who couldn’t. Bless you.
Thanks, LeAnne. My daughter actually desisted a year ago but is still completely ideologically captured as are all of her friends. Please pray that she opens her eyes to the truth.
It's clear to me Democrats are going to be of no help on this and they even see it as a cause to fight for. That leaves me in the unusual, uncomfortable situation of looking to Republicans to help in this battle. "Misery acquaints a man with strange bedfellows". You take your allies where you can find them. Realize many straight folks are also appalled and are on your side.
I think people need to reevaluate how they “identify” and who their allies are. The terms normally used have become meaningless. Ideally a strong two party system helped to be a check on the extremes of each but GOP has gone MAGA and Democrats have been taken over by woke-meisters and the loony left. Liberals and “progressives” are neither and “conservatives” no longer exist in MAGA world.
I don’t believe all Republicans are MAGA and many if not most red state governors have acted out of genuine concern over the absurd gender nonsense, especially involving children. Somehow we need a coalition of “normies” from both parties who feel they no longer fit. And for now only “Republicans” seem willing to confront this gender fiasco. Maybe we need to consider different beds to lie in. Where’s Goldilocks when you need her?
Cori's story suggests that Ray Blanchard's typology of male-to-female trans people is incomplete. Blanchard found that such individuals fall into one of two categories: autogynephiles or what he called "homosexual transsexuals." Perhaps some consideration should be given to adding a third group: refugees from toxic masculinity or, in queer theory terms that I don't embrace, refugees from the heteropatriarchy.
The fact that health professionals allowed him to transition given his mental state at the time illustrates the harm that comes when professionals elevate ideology over the well-being of the patient/client.
For as long as I have known about Blanchard's homosexual transsexual, I have felt that a same-sex attracted man who transitions in order to have sexual and/or romantic relations with men as a woman must have experienced great trauma growing up in his family or elsewhere in his larger social world. How could it not be an unfortunate maladaptive response to being gay?
Cori's situation is similar, but it is clear that he was seeking to become a female not to be able to hook up with men but to get away from the world of men.
I'm very sorry that people transition for reasons that turn out to be regretted. Certainly telling children that they can 'change sex' isn't something that responsible parents, adults or teachers should do. The whole trans ideology cult is insane.
However, it is the case that some people, such as myself, came to transsexualism sui generis. I never had any influences on this, I knew that I should have been a girl as early as four and a half years old. This female embodiment self concept never went away despite doing all I could to make it do so. Eventually I transitioned medically and the conflict was ended.
But I would never suggest to anyone that they should do it if they had not had this experience from their earliest recollections. It frightens me to hear about teenagers who suddenly decide during adolescence that they want to be of the opposite sex.
In my book 'The War on Gender ~ Postmodernism and Trans Identity' (look on Amazon) I am critical of the way this has gone in the last twenty or so years.
As CS Lewis observed, the most convincing lie needs some truth otherwise it won't be credible. Transsexualism as I experienced is that truth, which has been appropriated by gender queer ideology and inflicted on the youth of today. I am willing to discuss this with anyone who treats me with respect.
It’s certainly difficult to fathom the idea that a little kid (of 4 or 5) could feel they “should have been [the opposite sex]”. I can see envy of or wanting girly things. Millions of girls do! or not liking the constraints of “be this way or that” (early rebellion as it were). My take has been, to a certain degree, transsexualism requires a “faith” in the medical establishment. The idea of castration, for instance, seems extreme. That some desire it must be accepted, I suppose? I’d certainly caution any young person against it. It’s just a urination device, seems to me.
People body modify in all kinds of ways these days, from tattoos to piercings to boob jobs, nose jobs, etc. As much as possible I try to minimize contact with the medical world. Not sure this is a question? Trying to be respectful. Thanks for your voice!
Thankyou for your interest in this subject. I can understand that it is difficult for someone who never had this experience to accept that I did, but I did.
It wasn’t a decision and it wasn’t wanting to have or do girly things. When I first became aware of the physical differences between boys and girls I instantly knew that I should have been a girl. I also instantly knew that this was not how it should be and that no-one would take me seriously if I told them. That was around the age of 4 and a half to five. That was in the late 1950s and I hope you can accept that I never had any influences towards this. We were in Africa at the time.
There was nothing I could do about it despite trying to change or suppress it for many years through my childhood and adolescence. I spent most of my twenties trying to fix myself by becoming a therapist but all I found was that this was indelible and unremitting.
Most of those whom I know who are transsexual like me say exactly the same thing.
My hypothesis, which I tried very hard for many years to falsify in my own life experience but failed to, was and is that this is hard wired and neurologically based, as proposed by Professor VS Ramachandran (J. Consciousness Studies, 2007). This is not to say that pseudo-transsexualism through contagion, mimesis etc doesn’t happen, clearly there has been a lot of that in recent years.
The senior Emeritus Professor of Psychobiology at my local university who has been researching psychobiology for close to sixty years told me personally that he found my book ‘…full of good scholarship and clear thinking' and he also said ‘Of course I agree with you’. I also have a third professor of psychology who gave me a positive review on my book.
I’m not seeking recourse to arguing from authority on this, however I want to enter these data points before anyone tries to argue that a hard wired sense of bodily gender is not possible. It is, and some of the most eminent psychologists and neurologists in the world believe that it is as well.
Cori’s life story could be my son’s. My son’s childhood was pretty much the same with the addition of being bullied for the assumption that he was gay. Infuriating that “being gay” is still being hurled around as an insult and that people are still being bullied for their sexual preferences (or supposed preferences). When my son decided he must be female, he was suddenly protected and even celebrated at school. Sadly, I could not convince him to listen to people like Cori who have been through this and know the permanent toll it takes on one’s life. My heart goes out to Corinna and to my son who is barreling down the same path for the same reasons. And my fury is directed at all those who continue to perpetrate and abet these medical fantasies about changing sex - mutilation and medicalization of the body isn’t health care. It’s manipulation and abuse foisted upon people who really need support to appreciate themselves as they are.
It is for people with stories like you that I do this. It is some kind of left wing conversion therapy and they don’t seem to see just how homophobic and misogynistic it is. We used to celebrate Tomboys. We needed to learn how to embrace their male equivalents to where sissy wasn’t a dirty word that implied probable homosexuality. You will be in my prayers. Thank you.
Thank you, LeAnne! I am so grateful for people like you and Corinna who keep working to shed light on this situation. I’m going to keep speaking out as well. I think it is too late to turn the tide for my son - he’s been no contact with me for almost 2 years now, so he may have already gone the full route right thru surgery by now. But I’m hoping that maybe your words and mine and those of others trying to hold back this tide may eventually help other young people caught up in this.
Thank you for your words and I pray either way he makes his way back home. The breakup of families is one of the great tragedies. It’s easy to imagine this new rainbow family, but those people rarely last when bad times arrive. Just keep your heart out to when I pray he returns. Take care
Jack Turban, you bastard! Four words capturing the entire movement of gender-affirming care and the ghoulishness of the reprehensible human beings who have carried it out on vulnerable children and young adults.
100% Cori nailed it.
Thank you for all you do, LGBT Courage coalition. I wish I had the courage to speak up openly, rather than anonymously. Unfortunately, it would jeopardize my relationship with my daughter.
I am so sorry you’re going through that. You will be in my prayers. I am fortunate enough to be in a position where I can speak so I do, but I began this writing bc I had so many friends in positions like you who couldn’t. Bless you.
Thanks, LeAnne. My daughter actually desisted a year ago but is still completely ideologically captured as are all of her friends. Please pray that she opens her eyes to the truth.
It's clear to me Democrats are going to be of no help on this and they even see it as a cause to fight for. That leaves me in the unusual, uncomfortable situation of looking to Republicans to help in this battle. "Misery acquaints a man with strange bedfellows". You take your allies where you can find them. Realize many straight folks are also appalled and are on your side.
I’ve heard the phrase strange bedfellows used more about this topic than any other I can remember in my lifetime.
I think people need to reevaluate how they “identify” and who their allies are. The terms normally used have become meaningless. Ideally a strong two party system helped to be a check on the extremes of each but GOP has gone MAGA and Democrats have been taken over by woke-meisters and the loony left. Liberals and “progressives” are neither and “conservatives” no longer exist in MAGA world.
I don’t believe all Republicans are MAGA and many if not most red state governors have acted out of genuine concern over the absurd gender nonsense, especially involving children. Somehow we need a coalition of “normies” from both parties who feel they no longer fit. And for now only “Republicans” seem willing to confront this gender fiasco. Maybe we need to consider different beds to lie in. Where’s Goldilocks when you need her?
YES! And I'll praise your powerful voices!
Yes, I stand with you. Absolutely.
Thank you each of our voices is needed.
Cori's story suggests that Ray Blanchard's typology of male-to-female trans people is incomplete. Blanchard found that such individuals fall into one of two categories: autogynephiles or what he called "homosexual transsexuals." Perhaps some consideration should be given to adding a third group: refugees from toxic masculinity or, in queer theory terms that I don't embrace, refugees from the heteropatriarchy.
The fact that health professionals allowed him to transition given his mental state at the time illustrates the harm that comes when professionals elevate ideology over the well-being of the patient/client.
For as long as I have known about Blanchard's homosexual transsexual, I have felt that a same-sex attracted man who transitions in order to have sexual and/or romantic relations with men as a woman must have experienced great trauma growing up in his family or elsewhere in his larger social world. How could it not be an unfortunate maladaptive response to being gay?
Cori's situation is similar, but it is clear that he was seeking to become a female not to be able to hook up with men but to get away from the world of men.
I'm very sorry that people transition for reasons that turn out to be regretted. Certainly telling children that they can 'change sex' isn't something that responsible parents, adults or teachers should do. The whole trans ideology cult is insane.
However, it is the case that some people, such as myself, came to transsexualism sui generis. I never had any influences on this, I knew that I should have been a girl as early as four and a half years old. This female embodiment self concept never went away despite doing all I could to make it do so. Eventually I transitioned medically and the conflict was ended.
But I would never suggest to anyone that they should do it if they had not had this experience from their earliest recollections. It frightens me to hear about teenagers who suddenly decide during adolescence that they want to be of the opposite sex.
In my book 'The War on Gender ~ Postmodernism and Trans Identity' (look on Amazon) I am critical of the way this has gone in the last twenty or so years.
As CS Lewis observed, the most convincing lie needs some truth otherwise it won't be credible. Transsexualism as I experienced is that truth, which has been appropriated by gender queer ideology and inflicted on the youth of today. I am willing to discuss this with anyone who treats me with respect.
It’s certainly difficult to fathom the idea that a little kid (of 4 or 5) could feel they “should have been [the opposite sex]”. I can see envy of or wanting girly things. Millions of girls do! or not liking the constraints of “be this way or that” (early rebellion as it were). My take has been, to a certain degree, transsexualism requires a “faith” in the medical establishment. The idea of castration, for instance, seems extreme. That some desire it must be accepted, I suppose? I’d certainly caution any young person against it. It’s just a urination device, seems to me.
People body modify in all kinds of ways these days, from tattoos to piercings to boob jobs, nose jobs, etc. As much as possible I try to minimize contact with the medical world. Not sure this is a question? Trying to be respectful. Thanks for your voice!
Thankyou for your interest in this subject. I can understand that it is difficult for someone who never had this experience to accept that I did, but I did.
It wasn’t a decision and it wasn’t wanting to have or do girly things. When I first became aware of the physical differences between boys and girls I instantly knew that I should have been a girl. I also instantly knew that this was not how it should be and that no-one would take me seriously if I told them. That was around the age of 4 and a half to five. That was in the late 1950s and I hope you can accept that I never had any influences towards this. We were in Africa at the time.
There was nothing I could do about it despite trying to change or suppress it for many years through my childhood and adolescence. I spent most of my twenties trying to fix myself by becoming a therapist but all I found was that this was indelible and unremitting.
Most of those whom I know who are transsexual like me say exactly the same thing.
My hypothesis, which I tried very hard for many years to falsify in my own life experience but failed to, was and is that this is hard wired and neurologically based, as proposed by Professor VS Ramachandran (J. Consciousness Studies, 2007). This is not to say that pseudo-transsexualism through contagion, mimesis etc doesn’t happen, clearly there has been a lot of that in recent years.
The senior Emeritus Professor of Psychobiology at my local university who has been researching psychobiology for close to sixty years told me personally that he found my book ‘…full of good scholarship and clear thinking' and he also said ‘Of course I agree with you’. I also have a third professor of psychology who gave me a positive review on my book.
I’m not seeking recourse to arguing from authority on this, however I want to enter these data points before anyone tries to argue that a hard wired sense of bodily gender is not possible. It is, and some of the most eminent psychologists and neurologists in the world believe that it is as well.