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I’ll come to your bbq.

Sincere thanks for all you do to speak the truth. Unfortunately, your spreadsheet cant count the thousands of young people who will be saved from harm, but there are and will be many.

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"We don’t have the core group of families we can invite over for an impromptu BBQ anymore. Locally my world has become insulated and quiet. I have changed everything for everyone around me."

This really struck close to home. I wasn't a whistleblower, but when we stood up to the school, the doctors, and our friends, relatives and neighbors, our world, by necessity, became smaller and smaller. I miss my naivety. I miss trusting experts. I miss the general feeling of order and goodness in the world. But most of all, I miss the support that comes from a large group of friends. I’m slowly trying to move past the betrayal and build a new circle of trust.

Thank you, Jaime, for all you have done. I know but a small piece of the price you had to pay.

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Yes to the part about missing being able to trust experts. That was a spot on my bingo card I did not see coming. And I, too, have been “cancelled” in a neighborhood GB mom’s group of about 2000 members. I had posted a comment anonymously questioning our county-wide 7th grade sex ed curriculum for our 100,000+ students public school policy of slides from welcomingschools.org that taught *for a grade*, as fact, that there are “dozens of genders”. The comments were so stinging that I actually deleted my gentle, querying post.

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If and when Barbara Kingsolver learns what is happening and what happened she will be with you also.

The US has been lied to--not only the kids, the parents, the doctors!!!, the policy makers...everyone. A guess about affirmative care was put into place as policy. And then efforts to check if they worked and to point out errors were suffocated. People who tried to point it out were gagged. Deliberately.

As the editor in chief of the british medical journal said:

"Offering treatments without an adequate understanding of benefits and harms is unethical. All of this matters even more when the treatments are not trivial; puberty blockers and hormone therapies are major, life altering interventions. Yet this inconclusive and unacceptable evidence base was used to inform influential clinical guidelines, such as those of the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH), which themselves were cascaded into the development of subsequent guidelines internationally (doi:10.1136/bmj.q794).7 [...]

A spiralling interventionist approach, in the context of an evidence void, amounted to overmedicalising care for vulnerable young people. "

I admire her work also. And the Indigo Girls. I hope they start looking at what is actually happening soon. They've been lied to.

Like everyone else.

What you have done is so important and what you are doing is so important.

Thank you!!!!!

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And the worst part for me was when *authority* figures came for THE PARENTS and gaslit US and triangulated us out and undermined our authority with our impressionable kids. It’s like, what?! The psychologists, the pediatrician, the school, the American Academy of Pediatrics. Without Jamie’s whistle-blowing, kids and their parents were still all stumbling around confused and uncertain.

I hope Barbara Kingsolver WRITES about one of the ROGD kids. And I hope the Indigo Girls speak up for letting kids be kids.

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Our Day Two is getting closer. Every time I see the New York Times covering a gender story fairly, as they did this week in advance of the Cass Report, I note that the comments from paid subscribers are overwhelmingly on our side, and I see that the house of cards is getting wobbly on our side of the pond, too.

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Your work is so important. Thank you for moving forward in spite of those who do not want to hear the truth.

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The indigo girls line hits hard. They as much as anyone led to the end of the Mich womens festival. I almost said something to Amy the last time I saw them play a small festival where you could.

It’s heart breaking that smart women like them don’t stick up for lesbians heart breaking

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Jamie. Know that you are brave. You are unique. You are a voice in the wilderness.

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It’s a long swim. But the choice to stay on dry land would have cost too much. Thank you for your bravery and I wish you repair in those family ruptures.

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So grateful for you.

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Exactly! i want my days one and two here in the US. Will american press actually cover this? Can they see that if you pull a string, the whole sweater unravels?

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Heart-wrenchingly beautiful essay capturing the grief and despair and the cautious hopes and reliefs of this moment. Thank you, Jamie. I, too, would come to your bbq.

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First, I’m thinking that folks like Jamie who have done so much (and paid a high price) should inspire everyone else to speak up just a little. I just sent my emails to NPR and WBEZ-Chicago and will be on the lookout for other chances to speak my piece.

Second, Is there any way we can pull off that BBQ? Seriously—would be great to drive in from various parts of Midwest to thank Jamie and “represent” as ordinary folks who agree. All welcome; LGBT and those “somewhere to the left of Bernie Sanders” especially urged to attend . . .

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I am so sorry about your friends and family, Jamie. I realize that unlike random anonymous haters on social media, we can't dismiss our loved ones easily. Just remember that for every person who judges or hates you for what you did, there is at least one family immensely grateful to you and numerous families who don't even know how grateful they should be to you.

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You have the integrity to speak the truth under immense pressure not to, and for that you are my hero. Count me in as someone who would come to your bbq. I wish we could invite you to one here in New York.

P.s. you looked great on Dr. Phil

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You did the right thing! Thank you for being brave and standing for truth and reality. I hope this starts the end of the barbaric "affirmative care" model.

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So grateful you are out there in the world speaking reality into the wind of this gender nightmare. I would love to have all those families and allies fighting this evil over for a BBQ. I keep thinking about how to start some kind of family support group in Boston for those struggling to save their loved ones from this cult, but it's hard to reach out and start that without attracting the negative attention of the cult itself. The day is coming when we will be able to help each other recover from this without coming under attack. And your efforts, Jamie, are part of what will finally bring that day to us.

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There is a really good FB group that has members nationwide. You have to reach out and then answer some screening questions then get approved to join. I have been off FB since recently watching The Social Dilemma for the first time. If I recall, the group name was something like Parents of ROGD kids. That might be a way to cautiously and discretely find like-minded folks in your area.

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thank you! I will search that out.

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