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Thank you for sharing and for giving voice to just how complicated all of this is.

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We need more authentic stories like this from trans people. The pros and cons..the truth!

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Thank you for sharing your story. yes. The experts failed you and did not give you time to work through the many complicated feelings, sensations, thoughts and decisions.

Humans are complicated. I am still shocked that the simplistic approach of speedy sex transition is seen as best practices in this country.

Thank you for writing about the nuance and complication of all of it.

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Thanks for sharing your story. We hear so little in Canada. I think people might be afraid to talk about this.

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My heart aches for you. Thank you for sharing your story in all its complexity and for adding more space for nuanced conversation. Wishing you all the best

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Thank you for writing this.

"What responsibility do the medical providers and psychological assessors have, considering that they had a duty of care and I believed what they were telling me?"

They failed you....and need to stop failing others and tearing out the guardrails and attacking anyone who tries to make sure those who make these decisions are told all their options and what is not known--which is most of the important things.

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Jul 3, 2023
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The hope is that more and more parents understand and the choir becomes strong and loud. We need a larger choir. The louder and the more we speak up. That’s when it will change. I do think there will be so much damage from this-it will one day end-but there will be many casualties.

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I agree with you on this, and am sorry I let my frustration out here, of all places, so I have deleted what I wrote. I just do worry that, within these fora, only folks who are already on board to a certain extent will even look in here, though for those who need ways to think about this from authentic voices like this site is presenting, this can be helpful. This sort of thing certainly was to me when I was first becoming acquainted with these issues. I would urge all, and probably many do that already, that whenever and wherever you can reach out to someone who is uninformed or ill informed, use the information learned here and elsewhere to try and get through, including, wherever possible, to Democratic representatives, particularly, at all levels. So, best of luck to all at this site, and may you make a difference.

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